Getting Over Myself
This page is here to remind me to get over myself and be true to why I love this quirky, sometimes incredibly stressful, sometimes pure joy, hobby of mine. It's about going back to basics. I really wonder at my absurd ability to complicate the simple and to create my own drama!
So... what are your costuming resolutions?
Resolutions of a Costumer
Resolved - I will stop Costuming In A Rush (TM), otherwise known as the I Must Wear Something New to Every Event syndrome. No more scrambling, or trying to figure out the shortest possible route to the end just to produce a finished result. My favorite part of this hobby isn't the dressing up anyway, it's the creating. Being so focused on events, "using up" the stash, holding off CADD, or just plain finishing projects means that I lose the joy of doing. It's not about my skill level or ability to meet deadlines or even the dressing up for cool events, like I used to think, it's about my attitude and my passion and enjoying the journey along the way
Resolved – I will stop making costumes for other’s expectations (or what I *think* are their expectations) and start making what I want to make because I want to make it. Full stop.
Resolved – I will stop apologizing for the way I make my costumes. I don't need to justify what I'm doing and the design decisions I make to the greater costuming community. Being talented and creative doesn't have to equal 100% silk or 110% documentable period accuracy - sometimes it can be just plain fun!
Resolved – It’s not a sign of growing or maturing in my hobby that I use only the very best materials. As fun as it is to use silks and the finest supplies available, that is not my style and it never has been. My personal challenge in costuming has never been making things spot-on accurate or as luxurious as possible, but creatively using what I have on hand. I’m used to having a narrow selection of options and building costumes around limitations. That’s where I get my "kicks".
Resolved – It’s not a sign of growing or maturing in my hobby that everything I make is 110% historically accurate. *sigh* Accuracy, it's a double edge sword. I love historically correct construction and fabrics but it's so easy to get bogged down and anal about things like "how many angels can dance on the head of a pin". As costumers we all have to find our own balance. Mine happens to be just left of documentable and completely handsewn, being an odd mix of both modern "cheating" and meticulous detail. I focus on the details of design, fit and creating an overall look. No more, no less. And I’m darn good at it too.
Resolved – I will allow myself to receive compliments and allow myself to think well of my own work. I once heard that true humility is knowing and acknowledging both your limitations and your strengths. It’s okay to acknowledge that after 10 years of this hobby I have strengths and that I am proud of the work I produce. Also when complimented I need to not point every little thing I hate about my work too. Not everyone who comments on your costume needs to know all the things that aren’t "right" about it. Graciously accept compliments, let the issues go and only whine to to a few close friends who will love you anyway.
Resolved - I have nothing to prove to anyone but myself. This isn’t a contest and moreover I can hugely admire those who use the best in fabric and period technique without having to emulate them. I can receive no higher compliment than the respect of my costuming peers (and those I look up to in the costuming world) and I've gotten the distinct impression that is already the case.
In other words, Resolved - It’s okay to be me.